Renew yourself on an ultimate solo getaway. A simple checklist for solo travelers.
But, make sure it’s just far enough so that you feel outside of the city. The drive will be the start of your relaxation process. Picking somewhere that’s too far of a drive will most likely stress you out and the long car ride could get tiresome. I’d recommend 2-4 hours max! For this trip I picked Palm Springs which is about two hours from Los Angeles. This gave me enough time to start to relax my mind from what I like to call the “busy city clutter.” This includes: work, social events, your to-do list, relationship issues, family issues, chores and really anything that is part of your daily life during the week that can sometimes cause anxiety or stress. Of course it starting raining on my drive which you can see from the image below. This actually was very relaxing for me.
This allows you to keep serene and stay away from noise and distractions. Large resorts could have screaming kids, bar scenes, loud music etc. that you really want to try to stay away from if your really trying to recondition your mind and relieve stress. My thought is always finding something that is adult only, small and has all the amenities you need. The ones I looked for on this trip were: Pool, hot tub, comfortable bed, quite grounds, chic and modern feel, refrigerator (for my nutritional needs) and of course good wifi and within walking distance from cafe’s or stores if I feel the need to venture out.
If your like me it takes a lot for me to just unwind. Usually it takes about 1-2 days for me to just “start” relaxing. The spa speeds up this process for me. I immediately booked an appointment once I got here and got an amazing massage to start off my weekend. Make sure it’s a place where you can lounge, soak in a tub or sit in a steam room before and after. I get there an hour early to allow myself time to decompress with a hot tea and do some breathing and reading before my massage. Fortunately this place had a great area for reading and lounging before and after. During your massage try to clear your mind and focus on your breathing. Aromatherapy I feel always helps this process!
We all dress up for girlfriends, boyfriends and everyone else on this earth why not dress up for yourself?! After the spa, I took my time to curl my hair, throw on a summer dress and take myself out for a great dinner. Even though I’m not sitting with anyone or really no one has to talk to me it makes myself feel good to look appealing and just be out at a great restaurant. I ordered the rack of lamb and yes I ate it all and paired it with a great red bordeaux.
During my time here I read, walked around, did some light shopping and relaxed. I have a tendency to plan and make sure I’m busy all the time so I really worked on just sitting by the pool and reading, doing some freelance writing or even just taking a nap! (That’s a hard one for me). Spending time by yourself you will find helps you reconnect with who you are. Sometimes you may even find out something new about yourself. On this trip in particular I realized I need more rest time. Not sleep per se but time to just sit, and even meditate. I could feel how tired my mind actually was when I just sat by the pool in stillness.
Take time to recondition your mind and body. You’ll more likely than have the energy to succeed at things in the long run!